Nice Men Don’t Get Angry, But Good Men Do (Part One)

Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion

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I’m Angry Because I Matter

After I finally grasped the idea that anger is “I matter-energy,” I felt less guilty when anger would boil up. Like many modern men, I was taught to be a nice guy at almost all costs. And “good boys” don’t get angry. It makes other people uncomfortable, and indirectly, I was taught their feelings were more important than mine.

But I do matter. And by extension, “they matter.” I’m allowed to express anger when somebody tries to tell me or show me otherwise.

I’d like to say I became comfortable standing up for myself this way early in my life. But the truth is, this is all fairly new to me. Some gifts come with age.

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